I went to this party and there was this girl that I know. I was dressed all nice with a suit and tie. She kept smiling at me. So I went to the washroom and when i got out she was in the lobby. She comes up to me and gives me her card were she works. We kept talking and whatever. I find out shes a realtor. This party was on a friday, I call this girl on sunday and she didnt answer and I didnt leave a message. I call agian today and she didnt answer so this time I leave a message. I leave a message saying that I need to ask her about realestate. How long should I wait for her to call? Should I call her back if she doesnt call in a week?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What should I do?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This girls fine ass hell. I got a lady but this girl finer.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/images/smilies//whistle.gif
Who calls on the weekend to ask a real estate question? Right there you gave an excuse for your previous call. You should've held back until today. If she kept smiling, she didn't give you the card to discuss business.
"Hey, ABC this is XYZ. Some friends and I are going out for drinks on ___, you should come with us, we'll have a fun time. If you need to reach me 555-5555, bye." Pending this was a work number.
If she's interested, she'd call you. If not, then you move on to another girl. But you shouldn't be help up with just 1 anyways.
"Hey, ABC this is XYZ. Some friends and I are going out for drinks on ___, you should come with us, we'll have a fun time. If you need to reach me 555-5555, bye." Pending this was a work number.
If she's interested, she'd call you. If not, then you move on to another girl. But you shouldn't be help up with just 1 anyways.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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What was your conversation like at the party?
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Come on man, you've been here since Sept. I think you've taken indirect approach to the extreme. I don't recommend lying as to why you're calling. What's wrong with wanting to talk to girls?
Our conversation was about how I been, how she's been and what you been up to? She told me shes real busy with work. But when she approached me she just gave me her card. She said when ever you need help buying a house or something heres my card with a smile. I'm thinkng shes busy with work and she'll call me this weekend. The real estate thing was an excuse to call but I realy wanna get into real estate and I was going to ask her about where she went to to get her real estate liscense.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.