Bgarrido
Don Juan
I just found out this girl i like has a boyfriend.... I don't know what I should do about it, should i keep going after her or just give up 
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What should I do about this
- Thread starter Bgarrido
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
If she is really serious with her bf, I would say stay away. However If they have just recently met, its time to execute the art of disarming.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
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NorwegianDJ
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Going for several girls solves so many problems.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
What is disarming?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Karma is a btch.
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Just go for other girls at the same time. You dont have to give up.Bgarrido said:I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
I dont know what it is, but I think I've done it.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
aha aight i feel you, so just keep talking to her but back off some?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Lol, its funny how my buddies come up with crazy terms such as "Disarming".
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.