Bgarrido
Don Juan
I just found out this girl i like has a boyfriend.... I don't know what I should do about it, should i keep going after her or just give up 
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What should I do about this
- Thread starter Bgarrido
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
If she is really serious with her bf, I would say stay away. However If they have just recently met, its time to execute the art of disarming.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
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NorwegianDJ
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Going for several girls solves so many problems.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
What is disarming?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Karma is a btch.
NorwegianDJ
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Just go for other girls at the same time. You dont have to give up.Bgarrido said:I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
I dont know what it is, but I think I've done it.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
aha aight i feel you, so just keep talking to her but back off some?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Lol, its funny how my buddies come up with crazy terms such as "Disarming".
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.