Bgarrido
Don Juan
I just found out this girl i like has a boyfriend.... I don't know what I should do about it, should i keep going after her or just give up 
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What should I do about this
- Thread starter Bgarrido
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
If she is really serious with her bf, I would say stay away. However If they have just recently met, its time to execute the art of disarming.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
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NorwegianDJ
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Going for several girls solves so many problems.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
What is disarming?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Karma is a btch.
NorwegianDJ
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Just go for other girls at the same time. You dont have to give up.Bgarrido said:I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
I dont know what it is, but I think I've done it.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
aha aight i feel you, so just keep talking to her but back off some?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Lol, its funny how my buddies come up with crazy terms such as "Disarming".
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.