Bgarrido
Don Juan
I just found out this girl i like has a boyfriend.... I don't know what I should do about it, should i keep going after her or just give up 
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What should I do about this
- Thread starter Bgarrido
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
If she is really serious with her bf, I would say stay away. However If they have just recently met, its time to execute the art of disarming.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
Personally I wouldn't, I hate drama but hey thats just me buddy.
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NorwegianDJ
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Going for several girls solves so many problems.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
What is disarming?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Karma is a btch.
NorwegianDJ
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Just go for other girls at the same time. You dont have to give up.Bgarrido said:I don't want to give up on this girl just yet....
What is disarming?
I dont know what it is, but I think I've done it.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
aha aight i feel you, so just keep talking to her but back off some?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Lol, its funny how my buddies come up with crazy terms such as "Disarming".
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
Well, I would say disarming a guy is literally that, it especially works on guys who are insecure and jealous.
So you go up to the girl, and make her feel loved and appreciated, you give her the freedom to exist and be herself around you, you accept her as she is.
Pretty much, you won't even have to date her by the time she wants to fall for you.
So what happens at this point? You chill. The boyfriend will obviously interrogate(Provided he is jealous and insecure) her thus, in a paradox kinda way, will her push her even me into more in your arms without any more effort on your behalf.
Use with care, its lethal.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.