"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What place you choose for a first date and WHY?

What kind of date you usually go for and WHY?

  • 1. Expensive restaurant ( more than $15-17 per person)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 2. Moderate restaurant (less then $15-$17 per person)

    Votes: 2 10.5%
  • 3. Coffee at a cafe\coffe house like Starbuck

    Votes: 7 36.8%
  • 4. Coffee at some other place like a nice mall where you can stroll a bit

    Votes: 3 15.8%
  • 5. Art gallery, museum etc

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 6. A stroll in the park\city

    Votes: 2 10.5%
  • 7. Action date: from swimming to biking together

    Votes: 1 5.3%
  • 8. Other creative choice

    Votes: 4 21.1%

  • Total voters
    19

Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: Ah the train station ....

Originally posted by Bonhomme
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Good you have that skill, Francisco. I tend to be inconsistent, but am a pretty good listener. Once there's a good topic to latch onto, I can be very good, but sometimes I'm just a man of few words...
To you, what's the major difference between a good topic that you can latch onto as apposed to a bad one?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bonhomme

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Perhaps I worded that wrong, Francisco. It might be more accurate to say I tend to be at a loss for openers, absolutely dislike forcing a conversation. I'm very cool with silence.

I also seek to avoid a "job interview" sort of mode, which is a very common way in which coffee-house sort of dates get deadly dull, but don't have the consistent DeAngeloesque skills to deflect such a conversation if it does come up, and often end up coming across as evasive, flippant, or even difficult in such situations.

How do you typically handle a "job interview" type of discussion?
 

MoonieTX

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I took my last girl out to a comedy club. She loved it, were able to have a good laugh get close enough for kino and talk abit. But, it also stops you from having those awkward silences as something else is going on.
 
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