"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What place you choose for a first date and WHY?

What kind of date you usually go for and WHY?

  • 1. Expensive restaurant ( more than $15-17 per person)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 2. Moderate restaurant (less then $15-$17 per person)

    Votes: 2 10.5%

  • 3. Coffee at a cafe\coffe house like Starbuck

    Votes: 7 36.8%

  • 4. Coffee at some other place like a nice mall where you can stroll a bit

    Votes: 3 15.8%

  • 5. Art gallery, museum etc

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 6. A stroll in the park\city

    Votes: 2 10.5%

  • 7. Action date: from swimming to biking together

    Votes: 1 5.3%

  • 8. Other creative choice

    Votes: 4 21.1%
  • Total voters
    19
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: Ah the train station ....

Originally posted by Bonhomme
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Good you have that skill, Francisco. I tend to be inconsistent, but am a pretty good listener. Once there's a good topic to latch onto, I can be very good, but sometimes I'm just a man of few words...
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To you, what's the major difference between a good topic that you can latch onto as apposed to a bad one?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bonhomme

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Perhaps I worded that wrong, Francisco. It might be more accurate to say I tend to be at a loss for openers, absolutely dislike forcing a conversation. I'm very cool with silence.

I also seek to avoid a "job interview" sort of mode, which is a very common way in which coffee-house sort of dates get deadly dull, but don't have the consistent DeAngeloesque skills to deflect such a conversation if it does come up, and often end up coming across as evasive, flippant, or even difficult in such situations.

How do you typically handle a "job interview" type of discussion?
 
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I took my last girl out to a comedy club. She loved it, were able to have a good laugh get close enough for kino and talk abit. But, it also stops you from having those awkward silences as something else is going on.
 
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