DHV, meaning?
Just to be clear.
If a man just met a group of people, they're a large circle of acquaintances and not friends yet.
With close friends the rules are different since there's an emotional bond between them that's hard to be severed.
Demonstrate higher value.
We could keep overanalyzing and talking social dynamics but that isn't what Nick needs, in my opinion. As someone who also over thinks things, I think it's best Nick avoids overthinking here.
Making friends is simple. I am not saying it is easy, but it is simple. You don't need to think about anything more than this:
Introduce yourself to the group. "Hey, what are your names?"
Make a strong effort to remember their names. Use their names in sentences as you speak with them. They will appreciate the effort.
Ask them questions about themselves. See if you can relate. This is normal human interaction. If there is nothing to relate about, so be it, you win some and you lose some. No one bats 1000.
Say what you want to say, as long as it is respectful. The quicker you can start to be your unfiltered self, the quicker you will find out if you can be part of the group or not.
Keep in mind that this evaluation is a two way street. You are seeing if you like them too. Why would you hang out with people you don't like?
All of this applies to women too.
It is simple. Maybe not easy. But to only way is to keep it in mind, rinse and repeat.
As for contact, the original topic.. Nick, you've talked about Snapchat vs pho e number many times. I think you should be able to make the conclusion about whether getting a snap/insta is worth your time.
I don't have snap, I don't enjoy receiving awkward repetitive selfies of a person with text. And my Instagram is not for socializing, it's for me to track my progress in the gym. So if a girl offers those things... I don't want it and she will have to either give me her phone number or not talk to me. The choice is hers. I do think that pushing them to give you their number is an indication of whether they're with it or not. As I mentioned in another conversation of ours... Either she's with it or she's not. And if she isn't, she probably never will be. Think about it, she's so against giving you her phone number... For what reason? She can block you, not respond, etc. It's all the same with an app. So what's her real purpose in giving you the Snapchat/insta? Imo, it's to get another follower. And I'm not following no chick.
I lead. She follows. Or next. #deezed
How to find women: 1. Do interesting things. Interesting people do interesting things. But don't do these things with the goal of meeting women. Be a man. You are a young man with many interests, explore them and you will meet like-minded people. Do not construct your life with the goal of meeting women - that's a waste. And beta.
Open your eyes. Women are everywhere. In your class. At the bus stop. In McDonalds. In the crowd when you play. Outside walking.
I repeat: it is simple.