sillygoose
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24, fresh out of a relationship, wanting to get back into the game. Go.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeppipe007 said:the best book is experience, observation skills, learning from mistakes, and implementing what you learn.
every book on PUA is useless until you experience it yourself.
go out and say hi to 20 women and see how they react
then say HI how is it going, and see how they react
then start small talk and se how they react
if they dont react attracted to you, change your approach, try something new.
repeat
keep making small talks approaching, and when you get positive signs, get the number.
call teh numbers you get and see how they react to you
ask them out and see how readily they accept your invitation.
if they are rejecting you, change your approach.
and on and on, until you get the results you want.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
5string said:http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192557
Maybe hope for you yet sillygoose. At least you are making a bit of an effort. Go back to the above thread and read the advice you were given, then put it into practice.
The dj bible will help you if you will read it. Other than that, you need to get that chick out of your fvcking head, move on and get a new girl. She's gone, accept it. Most of us have dealt with this type of situation.
loveshogun told you to become a better, fun guy. Good advice. Listen to what cordoncordon told you as well as Iceberg. His words were golden.
The guys on this forum are here because they have endured the battles and small arms fire that you have just experienced. Again, listen to them.
Let the chick out of your mind and work on yourself. If you do that, much will simply fall into place for you.