sillygoose
Don Juan
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24, fresh out of a relationship, wanting to get back into the game. Go.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What literature do I need?
- Thread starter sillygoose
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jglide123
Don Juan
It really depends on what you're looking for. Because you just got out of a serious relationship, I'm gonna assume you're looking to play the field a bit before seriously committing again. There are many titles out there, but here are a few that have helped me.....
The very first book that I've read on success with women is a book titled "Make Every Girl Want You," by John Fate and Steve Riel. It isn't a very popular book and it isn't so much a pick up manual as it is a relationship builder. I would recommend this book for more mature men. I remember getting a date with a girl the very same day after reading this book (which is a very thin book).
"The Art of Macking" by Tariq Nasheed is a good one if you want to play the field.
Also, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a classic. While this book isn't designed for success with women, it should be the foundation of your game, as it's a great relationship builder for any type of relationship.
Anyways, good luck! I'm sure you'll get a bunch of titles thrown your way, so choose wisely....
The very first book that I've read on success with women is a book titled "Make Every Girl Want You," by John Fate and Steve Riel. It isn't a very popular book and it isn't so much a pick up manual as it is a relationship builder. I would recommend this book for more mature men. I remember getting a date with a girl the very same day after reading this book (which is a very thin book).
"The Art of Macking" by Tariq Nasheed is a good one if you want to play the field.
Also, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a classic. While this book isn't designed for success with women, it should be the foundation of your game, as it's a great relationship builder for any type of relationship.
Anyways, good luck! I'm sure you'll get a bunch of titles thrown your way, so choose wisely....
the best book is experience, observation skills, learning from mistakes, and implementing what you learn.
every book on PUA is useless until you experience it yourself.
go out and say hi to 20 women and see how they react
then say HI how is it going, and see how they react
then start small talk and se how they react
if they dont react attracted to you, change your approach, try something new.
repeat
keep making small talks approaching, and when you get positive signs, get the number.
call teh numbers you get and see how they react to you
ask them out and see how readily they accept your invitation.
if they are rejecting you, change your approach.
and on and on, until you get the results you want.
every book on PUA is useless until you experience it yourself.
go out and say hi to 20 women and see how they react
then say HI how is it going, and see how they react
then start small talk and se how they react
if they dont react attracted to you, change your approach, try something new.
repeat
keep making small talks approaching, and when you get positive signs, get the number.
call teh numbers you get and see how they react to you
ask them out and see how readily they accept your invitation.
if they are rejecting you, change your approach.
and on and on, until you get the results you want.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Art of Mackin' - Main Dish. Gets your game right/in the door.
The Mack Within- Side dishes. Upgrade your game.
The Elite Way- More for relationships with female.
The Mack Within- Side dishes. Upgrade your game.
The Elite Way- More for relationships with female.
5string
Master Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192557
Maybe hope for you yet sillygoose. At least you are making a bit of an effort. Go back to the above thread and read the advice you were given, then put it into practice.
The dj bible will help you if you will read it. Other than that, you need to get that chick out of your fvcking head, move on and get a new girl. She's gone, accept it. Most of us have dealt with this type of situation.
loveshogun told you to become a better, fun guy. Good advice. Listen to what cordoncordon told you as well as Iceberg. His words were golden.
The guys on this forum are here because they have endured the battles and small arms fire that you have just experienced. Again, listen to them.
Let the chick out of your mind and work on yourself. If you do that, much will simply fall into place for you.
Maybe hope for you yet sillygoose. At least you are making a bit of an effort. Go back to the above thread and read the advice you were given, then put it into practice.
The dj bible will help you if you will read it. Other than that, you need to get that chick out of your fvcking head, move on and get a new girl. She's gone, accept it. Most of us have dealt with this type of situation.
loveshogun told you to become a better, fun guy. Good advice. Listen to what cordoncordon told you as well as Iceberg. His words were golden.
The guys on this forum are here because they have endured the battles and small arms fire that you have just experienced. Again, listen to them.
Let the chick out of your mind and work on yourself. If you do that, much will simply fall into place for you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
5string said:
Honestly, after having a PM discussion with him, I strongly believe he's a troll. But we'll see what happens.
Maybe he disappears to read the wealth of information on this site.
Or maybe he comes back posting thread after thread asking questions that could be resolved with a click of the "search" button.