You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
thisIceberg said:Guys who don't ask questions like this. That's usually who's getting laid the most.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Fixed that for youEspi said:Guys who are confident
confidence alone wont get you laid, it will help get you laid more certainly. thing with confidence is that it has to be congruent with who you are, sometimes you can fake it, but women can sniff out fakes. you have to be a good actor to pull of fake confidence if you havent got the substance to back it upLondon NATURAL said:Fixed that for you
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
women are only kopen to YOU when they find you sexually attractive... so it does not matter how great you game is or personality is it means nothing to her if she does not want to F you.. what that means is they yes you can still get luck but it will take longer and require more work than it would for a guy she calls "hot or sexy "skinnyguy said:Good looking white guys.
If you're ugly, being "confident" does nothing for you!!! If anything is causes you to be even more repulsive to women!!
Can I put a final appeal in for "confidence", in Judge Nismos court please sir.nismo-4 said:Rich men, muscular men, famous men.
Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What do you drive and why don't you own a house? Just curious.Espi said:I'll vouch for myself on this.
Guys who are confident; work hard; go after what they want; are passionate.
A short list but those qualities keep my plate-spinning odyssey pretty full.
I'm tall, muscular.
Don;t make a lot of money.
Live in a 1 bedroom apt.
Drive a luxury vehicle (because I want to).
The guys I know who get laid the most are the guys who are out trying to get laid the most. It's that simple. The ones that are asking out all the girls, are the ones who are getting to go out with all the girls, for the most part. Women pay mainly a passive role. They have to sit back and wait to be asked out.nismo-4 said:Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.