You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
thisIceberg said:Guys who don't ask questions like this. That's usually who's getting laid the most.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fixed that for youEspi said:Guys who are confident
confidence alone wont get you laid, it will help get you laid more certainly. thing with confidence is that it has to be congruent with who you are, sometimes you can fake it, but women can sniff out fakes. you have to be a good actor to pull of fake confidence if you havent got the substance to back it upLondon NATURAL said:Fixed that for you
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
women are only kopen to YOU when they find you sexually attractive... so it does not matter how great you game is or personality is it means nothing to her if she does not want to F you.. what that means is they yes you can still get luck but it will take longer and require more work than it would for a guy she calls "hot or sexy "skinnyguy said:Good looking white guys.
If you're ugly, being "confident" does nothing for you!!! If anything is causes you to be even more repulsive to women!!
Can I put a final appeal in for "confidence", in Judge Nismos court please sir.nismo-4 said:Rich men, muscular men, famous men.
Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What do you drive and why don't you own a house? Just curious.Espi said:I'll vouch for myself on this.
Guys who are confident; work hard; go after what they want; are passionate.
A short list but those qualities keep my plate-spinning odyssey pretty full.
I'm tall, muscular.
Don;t make a lot of money.
Live in a 1 bedroom apt.
Drive a luxury vehicle (because I want to).
The guys I know who get laid the most are the guys who are out trying to get laid the most. It's that simple. The ones that are asking out all the girls, are the ones who are getting to go out with all the girls, for the most part. Women pay mainly a passive role. They have to sit back and wait to be asked out.nismo-4 said:Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.