Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
thisIceberg said:Guys who don't ask questions like this. That's usually who's getting laid the most.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fixed that for youEspi said:Guys who are confident
confidence alone wont get you laid, it will help get you laid more certainly. thing with confidence is that it has to be congruent with who you are, sometimes you can fake it, but women can sniff out fakes. you have to be a good actor to pull of fake confidence if you havent got the substance to back it upLondon NATURAL said:Fixed that for you
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
women are only kopen to YOU when they find you sexually attractive... so it does not matter how great you game is or personality is it means nothing to her if she does not want to F you.. what that means is they yes you can still get luck but it will take longer and require more work than it would for a guy she calls "hot or sexy "skinnyguy said:Good looking white guys.
If you're ugly, being "confident" does nothing for you!!! If anything is causes you to be even more repulsive to women!!
Can I put a final appeal in for "confidence", in Judge Nismos court please sir.nismo-4 said:Rich men, muscular men, famous men.
Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What do you drive and why don't you own a house? Just curious.Espi said:I'll vouch for myself on this.
Guys who are confident; work hard; go after what they want; are passionate.
A short list but those qualities keep my plate-spinning odyssey pretty full.
I'm tall, muscular.
Don;t make a lot of money.
Live in a 1 bedroom apt.
Drive a luxury vehicle (because I want to).
The guys I know who get laid the most are the guys who are out trying to get laid the most. It's that simple. The ones that are asking out all the girls, are the ones who are getting to go out with all the girls, for the most part. Women pay mainly a passive role. They have to sit back and wait to be asked out.nismo-4 said:Notice I didn't say confident men. Because confidence doesn't turn you into any of these types of men above. Tell a man to be confident and he'll get a girl. Yeah right. He'll get a girl to laugh at best and be annoyed at worst.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.