"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok, here goes:

A few nights ago I went to a baseball game with all my coworkers. It's alot of fun, nobody really pays attention to the game, it's really just a good time to hang out and talk and stuff like that. Anyway, most of my coworkers are college students, and the girl who gave me a ride to the game was sitting next to me the whole time. I've known her for a long time, about 3 years, and never really considered her an option because of the age difference. I'm 17, she's 23. So we're talking and all that, and she tells me that her and a bunch of my coworkers are going to the local bar and asked if I wanted to go because they don't card on weekdays. I had to tell her no because I had to go home to my parents and my curfew is 11pm. Well, a few minutes later, just out of the blue she leans over to talk to me and tells me that if I ever wanted to come over to her appartment to drink with her, stay the night, and just hang out that it would be totally cool. I said sure, and we traded #'s. Anyways, I haven't talked to her about it since then, and was wondering if anyone thought it might be innuendo. Kinda like a "Why don't you come in for some coffee" thing.
Just lookin' for opinions on whether it might lead to more than just drinking. I am gonna take her up on her offer just to see where it leads. In anycase I get the chance to get wasted, so it's all good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Porky

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MIGHT be innuendo?

If I said that to most of my female friends, that would simultaneously ruin the friendship and my reputation. Go for it, and go for it hard.
 

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Green light means GO!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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