JBalfour4
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What is your definition of "Love"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What is your definition of "Love"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Microphone Fiend
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Mack Bishop
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two people feeling sorry for each other
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JBalfour4
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Wow! thanks for ****in the post up!
seize_the_pattern
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welcome to sosuave 
there are even moderators who are good at this (yes yes moderators the Torture Never Stops muhahahahaha)
there are even moderators who are good at this (yes yes moderators the Torture Never Stops muhahahahaha)
m4a1
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Sosuave.com (Allen) said:
So this is what we're going to do from now on:
Any member who flames a moderator, baits a moderator, or deliberately attempts to annoy a moderator will be banned or suspended immediately. All members are to treat the moderators with the utmost respect.
You're baiting the moderators.
YOU SHOULD BE BANNED
j/k you can stay.
seize_the_pattern
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Read carefully
I didnt say THE moderators who are good at this
No further judging just saying what Ive seen so far.
and yes to for most respectable moderators this whole moderators-being-a-pain-in-the-ass-discussion is a pain in the ass.
but it deserves leverage
allright ... love... the first tapes of brian tracy's the psychology of achievement explain it pretty well by the example of the child-grief-death-syndrome where 2 groups of newborn children where seperated into those who got diapers changed, fed, sung to, held, talked to and given attention and those who just got fed and had their diapers changed and that was it. The experiment had to be stopped and it was stopped too late because 90% of those children of the second group had already died out of grief.
So i guess love repressents any form of positive interaction and connection with yourself and other people necessary to grow a healthy personality. Children in their formative years who do not get enough love from their parents grow love deficianties (is that how you spell it/?)
After the formative years one is supposed to fullfill him/herself with the feelings of love and draw relationships from it and have it working for their personality
Cheers,
I didnt say THE moderators who are good at this
No further judging just saying what Ive seen so far.
and yes to for most respectable moderators this whole moderators-being-a-pain-in-the-ass-discussion is a pain in the ass.
but it deserves leverage
allright ... love... the first tapes of brian tracy's the psychology of achievement explain it pretty well by the example of the child-grief-death-syndrome where 2 groups of newborn children where seperated into those who got diapers changed, fed, sung to, held, talked to and given attention and those who just got fed and had their diapers changed and that was it. The experiment had to be stopped and it was stopped too late because 90% of those children of the second group had already died out of grief.
So i guess love repressents any form of positive interaction and connection with yourself and other people necessary to grow a healthy personality. Children in their formative years who do not get enough love from their parents grow love deficianties (is that how you spell it/?)
After the formative years one is supposed to fullfill him/herself with the feelings of love and draw relationships from it and have it working for their personality
Cheers,
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
LuvMyArmyMan
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Love is just wanting to be with someone without an explanation.
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It's when you're in a situation where it's in your best interest to leave someone you're with, but you decide to stay with them.
For example, Sheryl Crow wants to have kids, and her boyfriend has prostate cancer and cant father any children, yet she's marrying him and is gonna spend the rest of her days with him anyway.
That's what real love is, at least in my opinion. Anything else is just infatuation or losing your balls.
For example, Sheryl Crow wants to have kids, and her boyfriend has prostate cancer and cant father any children, yet she's marrying him and is gonna spend the rest of her days with him anyway.
That's what real love is, at least in my opinion. Anything else is just infatuation or losing your balls.
Love is when just being around the girl satisfies you.
Love is when u would do anything for the other person.
Love is when u would DIE for the other person
Love is when u feel like crying when u dont see that person for a long time and u miss them so god damn much!
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Love is when u would do anything for the other person.
Love is when u would DIE for the other person
Love is when u feel like crying when u dont see that person for a long time and u miss them so god damn much!
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LuvMyArmyMan
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yes aequites! you pretty much summed it up quite nicely
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diplomatic_lie
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Love is when you tip a hooker $100 instead of $25;.
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No one said talkin out of the anus is a good idea either to make this forum work best