Hugh G. Rection
Don Juan
an 18 year old 6'2" male?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wow...Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Your similar to me: 6'1'' male. I also want to know this, since I weigh at any given time between 125-130lbs.
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?Originally posted by Hugh G. Rection
Jimbo,
I think we're about the same. I weigh 61 or 62 kg (136 lbs?) myself, but I have clothes that make me look a little bigger. Well, when I look in the mirror while wearing those clothes, my shoulders look more broad.
I don't really know. They're just normal clothes. I have a long-sleeved sweater and when I pull the sleeves about halfway up, I look much more bigger. That was only one example, I have more clothes like that, but the point is that you should wear them in a way that your shoulders look broader, and your stomach tighter. It probably has to do with optical illusions and such. It's hard to explain, you should try it out.Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?
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