Hugh G. Rection
Don Juan
an 18 year old 6'2" male?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wow...Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Your similar to me: 6'1'' male. I also want to know this, since I weigh at any given time between 125-130lbs.
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?Originally posted by Hugh G. Rection
Jimbo,
I think we're about the same. I weigh 61 or 62 kg (136 lbs?) myself, but I have clothes that make me look a little bigger. Well, when I look in the mirror while wearing those clothes, my shoulders look more broad.
I don't really know. They're just normal clothes. I have a long-sleeved sweater and when I pull the sleeves about halfway up, I look much more bigger. That was only one example, I have more clothes like that, but the point is that you should wear them in a way that your shoulders look broader, and your stomach tighter. It probably has to do with optical illusions and such. It's hard to explain, you should try it out.Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?
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