Hugh G. Rection
Don Juan
an 18 year old 6'2" male?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow...Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Your similar to me: 6'1'' male. I also want to know this, since I weigh at any given time between 125-130lbs.
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?Originally posted by Hugh G. Rection
Jimbo,
I think we're about the same. I weigh 61 or 62 kg (136 lbs?) myself, but I have clothes that make me look a little bigger. Well, when I look in the mirror while wearing those clothes, my shoulders look more broad.
I don't really know. They're just normal clothes. I have a long-sleeved sweater and when I pull the sleeves about halfway up, I look much more bigger. That was only one example, I have more clothes like that, but the point is that you should wear them in a way that your shoulders look broader, and your stomach tighter. It probably has to do with optical illusions and such. It's hard to explain, you should try it out.Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Clothing that makes your shoulders look broader? What kind of clothing is this and how exactly does it accomplish that goal?
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