Heretolearn
Master Don Juan
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best relationship you have heard of?
best love story?
Worst?
Biggest heartbreak?
best love story?
Worst?
Biggest heartbreak?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOL - No, I have just never seen real love. Everyone talks about it but I have never really seen two people whom I thought were magically in love.Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Sweet Moses man!
Did you just watch, Sleepless in Seattle or something? Your last few threads sound like you had a sex change this weekend. Where did all of this chick-think come from?
I think its some part of Arab culture. Arabs tend to take family values more seriously than Americans, so they're going to be more fanatic about protecting their family and crap.Originally posted by Swoop
This isn't the best love story but it is definitely the stupidest one I have heard on the news. It was about an Iraq soldier who got injured. The doctor told him that they will need to cut his wedding ring off to save his finger. Instead he insist that the doctor cut off his finger to save his wedding ring. Is that not some twisted love?
:crackup:Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Sweet Moses man!
Did you just watch, Sleepless in Seattle or something? Your last few threads sound like you had a sex change this weekend. Where did all of this chick-think come from?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.