Ever since I have been on anti depressants I gained weight. I'm about 5'8 225. Yeah I know, work out. But currently, should I just give up on women until I lose weight? I don't even make eye contact with women because I feel inferior. Should I not pursue attractive women and go after some 6 and 7's?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What is a guy to do who is overweight??
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Alextheegreat
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Dang son, no don't give up... you need a little refresher thats all. But most of all, you need to get your life in order. if your on anti depressants for whatever reason you need to get up off your lazy ass and fix one thing at a time on what is troubling you. Then you can start getting this women, they smell this fear so they know hey I don't want to be with you. Your weight, with confidence would still get women.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
advise that is ovbiously not being put to use
yes. even if you were to find a good woman.. which you won't... but if you did, your lack of self esteem will sabatoge any relationship you get into beucase you don't lke yourself, and you in turn, will look for clues for her to not like you.
i feel your pain man. it's a long jounry. but once you get in the swing of it it flys by. i'm 5'9 and i was 240 when i was 22. i'm now 175 (from 155) with 8-9% body fat.
that is 5 years of work.
but 5 years starts with 1 day. the more you put it off the longer you are denying yourself.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
lol your post count says 911.bud_2005 said:
You should do both. Obviously the core of the problem is the low self-esteem, not your weight. Once you gain some confidence, the urge to exercise will come naturally to you. The exercise and success with women will go hand-in-hand. Success at working out will give you more confidence boost, thus giving you more success with women, and success with women will encourage you to exercise more.
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Pull yourself together bro.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
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Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
work out, and do "push aways" (from the dinner table). One thing I found: If I go to bed hungry, I wake up not hungry. So avoid temptation late at night. Also, work on choosing outfits that make you look trimmer. you dont have to spend a lot. when I was broke, I bought decent "slightly used" clothes at the salvation army. Boots add height, and give you a manly look. Get tanned, whiten your teeth, practice your smile, etc. You have plenty to do while silmultaneously dieting, get busy. and you might as well get out there now with the women so you can work off your bad approaches. stand tall & be cool.
Bible_Belt
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bud_2005 said:
That's depressing. Try to phase out the pills.