Ever since I have been on anti depressants I gained weight. I'm about 5'8 225. Yeah I know, work out. But currently, should I just give up on women until I lose weight? I don't even make eye contact with women because I feel inferior. Should I not pursue attractive women and go after some 6 and 7's?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What is a guy to do who is overweight??
- Thread starter bud_2005
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Alextheegreat
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Dang son, no don't give up... you need a little refresher thats all. But most of all, you need to get your life in order. if your on anti depressants for whatever reason you need to get up off your lazy ass and fix one thing at a time on what is troubling you. Then you can start getting this women, they smell this fear so they know hey I don't want to be with you. Your weight, with confidence would still get women.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
advise that is ovbiously not being put to use
yes. even if you were to find a good woman.. which you won't... but if you did, your lack of self esteem will sabatoge any relationship you get into beucase you don't lke yourself, and you in turn, will look for clues for her to not like you.
i feel your pain man. it's a long jounry. but once you get in the swing of it it flys by. i'm 5'9 and i was 240 when i was 22. i'm now 175 (from 155) with 8-9% body fat.
that is 5 years of work.
but 5 years starts with 1 day. the more you put it off the longer you are denying yourself.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
lol your post count says 911.bud_2005 said:
You should do both. Obviously the core of the problem is the low self-esteem, not your weight. Once you gain some confidence, the urge to exercise will come naturally to you. The exercise and success with women will go hand-in-hand. Success at working out will give you more confidence boost, thus giving you more success with women, and success with women will encourage you to exercise more.
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Pull yourself together bro.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
work out, and do "push aways" (from the dinner table). One thing I found: If I go to bed hungry, I wake up not hungry. So avoid temptation late at night. Also, work on choosing outfits that make you look trimmer. you dont have to spend a lot. when I was broke, I bought decent "slightly used" clothes at the salvation army. Boots add height, and give you a manly look. Get tanned, whiten your teeth, practice your smile, etc. You have plenty to do while silmultaneously dieting, get busy. and you might as well get out there now with the women so you can work off your bad approaches. stand tall & be cool.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
bud_2005 said:
That's depressing. Try to phase out the pills.