Ever since I have been on anti depressants I gained weight. I'm about 5'8 225. Yeah I know, work out. But currently, should I just give up on women until I lose weight? I don't even make eye contact with women because I feel inferior. Should I not pursue attractive women and go after some 6 and 7's?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What is a guy to do who is overweight??
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Alextheegreat
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Dang son, no don't give up... you need a little refresher thats all. But most of all, you need to get your life in order. if your on anti depressants for whatever reason you need to get up off your lazy ass and fix one thing at a time on what is troubling you. Then you can start getting this women, they smell this fear so they know hey I don't want to be with you. Your weight, with confidence would still get women.
backbreaker
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advise that is ovbiously not being put to use
yes. even if you were to find a good woman.. which you won't... but if you did, your lack of self esteem will sabatoge any relationship you get into beucase you don't lke yourself, and you in turn, will look for clues for her to not like you.
i feel your pain man. it's a long jounry. but once you get in the swing of it it flys by. i'm 5'9 and i was 240 when i was 22. i'm now 175 (from 155) with 8-9% body fat.
that is 5 years of work.
but 5 years starts with 1 day. the more you put it off the longer you are denying yourself.
sharkbeat
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lol your post count says 911.bud_2005 said:
You should do both. Obviously the core of the problem is the low self-esteem, not your weight. Once you gain some confidence, the urge to exercise will come naturally to you. The exercise and success with women will go hand-in-hand. Success at working out will give you more confidence boost, thus giving you more success with women, and success with women will encourage you to exercise more.
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Pull yourself together bro.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
work out, and do "push aways" (from the dinner table). One thing I found: If I go to bed hungry, I wake up not hungry. So avoid temptation late at night. Also, work on choosing outfits that make you look trimmer. you dont have to spend a lot. when I was broke, I bought decent "slightly used" clothes at the salvation army. Boots add height, and give you a manly look. Get tanned, whiten your teeth, practice your smile, etc. You have plenty to do while silmultaneously dieting, get busy. and you might as well get out there now with the women so you can work off your bad approaches. stand tall & be cool.
Bible_Belt
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bud_2005 said:
That's depressing. Try to phase out the pills.