Ever since I have been on anti depressants I gained weight. I'm about 5'8 225. Yeah I know, work out. But currently, should I just give up on women until I lose weight? I don't even make eye contact with women because I feel inferior. Should I not pursue attractive women and go after some 6 and 7's?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What is a guy to do who is overweight??
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Alextheegreat
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Dang son, no don't give up... you need a little refresher thats all. But most of all, you need to get your life in order. if your on anti depressants for whatever reason you need to get up off your lazy ass and fix one thing at a time on what is troubling you. Then you can start getting this women, they smell this fear so they know hey I don't want to be with you. Your weight, with confidence would still get women.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
advise that is ovbiously not being put to use
yes. even if you were to find a good woman.. which you won't... but if you did, your lack of self esteem will sabatoge any relationship you get into beucase you don't lke yourself, and you in turn, will look for clues for her to not like you.
i feel your pain man. it's a long jounry. but once you get in the swing of it it flys by. i'm 5'9 and i was 240 when i was 22. i'm now 175 (from 155) with 8-9% body fat.
that is 5 years of work.
but 5 years starts with 1 day. the more you put it off the longer you are denying yourself.
sharkbeat
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lol your post count says 911.bud_2005 said:
You should do both. Obviously the core of the problem is the low self-esteem, not your weight. Once you gain some confidence, the urge to exercise will come naturally to you. The exercise and success with women will go hand-in-hand. Success at working out will give you more confidence boost, thus giving you more success with women, and success with women will encourage you to exercise more.
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Pull yourself together bro.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
work out, and do "push aways" (from the dinner table). One thing I found: If I go to bed hungry, I wake up not hungry. So avoid temptation late at night. Also, work on choosing outfits that make you look trimmer. you dont have to spend a lot. when I was broke, I bought decent "slightly used" clothes at the salvation army. Boots add height, and give you a manly look. Get tanned, whiten your teeth, practice your smile, etc. You have plenty to do while silmultaneously dieting, get busy. and you might as well get out there now with the women so you can work off your bad approaches. stand tall & be cool.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
bud_2005 said:
That's depressing. Try to phase out the pills.