Ever since I have been on anti depressants I gained weight. I'm about 5'8 225. Yeah I know, work out. But currently, should I just give up on women until I lose weight? I don't even make eye contact with women because I feel inferior. Should I not pursue attractive women and go after some 6 and 7's?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What is a guy to do who is overweight??
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Alextheegreat
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Dang son, no don't give up... you need a little refresher thats all. But most of all, you need to get your life in order. if your on anti depressants for whatever reason you need to get up off your lazy ass and fix one thing at a time on what is troubling you. Then you can start getting this women, they smell this fear so they know hey I don't want to be with you. Your weight, with confidence would still get women.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
advise that is ovbiously not being put to use
yes. even if you were to find a good woman.. which you won't... but if you did, your lack of self esteem will sabatoge any relationship you get into beucase you don't lke yourself, and you in turn, will look for clues for her to not like you.
i feel your pain man. it's a long jounry. but once you get in the swing of it it flys by. i'm 5'9 and i was 240 when i was 22. i'm now 175 (from 155) with 8-9% body fat.
that is 5 years of work.
but 5 years starts with 1 day. the more you put it off the longer you are denying yourself.
sharkbeat
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lol your post count says 911.bud_2005 said:
You should do both. Obviously the core of the problem is the low self-esteem, not your weight. Once you gain some confidence, the urge to exercise will come naturally to you. The exercise and success with women will go hand-in-hand. Success at working out will give you more confidence boost, thus giving you more success with women, and success with women will encourage you to exercise more.
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Pull yourself together bro.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
Keep trying to lose weight, as women will take notice. Or make great money.
Otherwise, come out of this funk you're in, as it's only hurting you.
Case closed.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
work out, and do "push aways" (from the dinner table). One thing I found: If I go to bed hungry, I wake up not hungry. So avoid temptation late at night. Also, work on choosing outfits that make you look trimmer. you dont have to spend a lot. when I was broke, I bought decent "slightly used" clothes at the salvation army. Boots add height, and give you a manly look. Get tanned, whiten your teeth, practice your smile, etc. You have plenty to do while silmultaneously dieting, get busy. and you might as well get out there now with the women so you can work off your bad approaches. stand tall & be cool.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
bud_2005 said:
That's depressing. Try to phase out the pills.