You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Excellent point. Even if you're not using self deprecating humor, you can still come off as a clown using ****y and funny. I think what you are missing is kino. The formula for ****y and funny is more like ****y+funny+kino, that's the ultimate product and something that David D fails to mention.Sir Juanalot said:Are you the man that is funny, or the clown? Theres a distinct difference between the two.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
What he said.Jokerlsk said:DONT BE THE CLOWN! Trust me man, I was or still am viewed as the clown. It's hard to shed. So if you can avoid it, I honestly don't know how to get out of it myself. IF your the clown girls only think of you as a friend and someone that can make them feel better when their having a bad day e.g. getting dumped