You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Excellent point. Even if you're not using self deprecating humor, you can still come off as a clown using ****y and funny. I think what you are missing is kino. The formula for ****y and funny is more like ****y+funny+kino, that's the ultimate product and something that David D fails to mention.Sir Juanalot said:Are you the man that is funny, or the clown? Theres a distinct difference between the two.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What he said.Jokerlsk said:DONT BE THE CLOWN! Trust me man, I was or still am viewed as the clown. It's hard to shed. So if you can avoid it, I honestly don't know how to get out of it myself. IF your the clown girls only think of you as a friend and someone that can make them feel better when their having a bad day e.g. getting dumped