"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What if being sexual is bad?

asianbboy

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I think making sexual jokes/being serious is really bad when you first start to know a girl. I'm trying a new idea of just talking a lot and not giving a **** about what I say on text (plenty of omgs, repetitive lettering), then being very touchy and emotional IRL. I've just started doing tis and chicks seem to respond better. Maybe being cool is just an illusion and it's necessary to act retarded.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Retarted no, not giving fvck yes.
Dude being sexual is never bad, how do you think me and you came on this planet?
SEX
only reason girls dont do it is because they dont want to be labeled a "slut" girls love sex bro.
but dont get serious to the point of where the girl thinks your about to rape her.
joke around with her make some jokes about sex just dont let it get to serious if you barely know her.
 

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Stingers said:
Retarted no, not giving fvck yes.
Dude being sexual is never bad, how do you think me and you came on this planet?
SEX
only reason girls dont do it is because they dont want to be labeled a "slut" girls love sex bro.
but dont get serious to the point of where the girl thinks your about to rape her.
joke around with her make some jokes about sex just dont let it get to serious if you barely know her.
Yes I joke about sex all the time. ^^^ It is not bad.

Very touchy, emotional, and no sexy jokes? Just be cautious you might give off vibe of the ever dreaded needy "friend" for girls.
And texts aren't nearly as important as actual interaction
 

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The sex jokes you make reveal your private beliefs about sex, women, and yourself. If you are confident and secure, it will come through. Insecurity will also come through. Sex jokes should come from a joyful mindset and they will go over well.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
The sex jokes you make reveal your private beliefs about sex, women, and yourself. If you are confident and secure, it will come through. Insecurity will also come through. Sex jokes should come from a joyful mindset and they will go over well.
How do you develop this confidence?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Especially if the only sex you've seen is through terribly unrealistic porn videos.
 

LearningSlowly

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It comes from meditation and experience. It requires a sensitivity to women. A lot of guys believe that sex gives them power over women. A lot of guys believe that women's enjoyment isn't important. A lot of guys believe that sex is power given by women to men, and they need to collect as much as they can.

None of those are right. Sooner or later you'll discover mutual benefit and trust, the funny parts of sex, and an acceptance that everyone has their own ideas about sex.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
A lot of guys believe that women's enjoyment isn't important.
This. Like Nino says, make 'em feel loved.
 
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