What exactly is confidence?

[Babnik]

Is it that:

You WILL get her?
You CAN get her?

Shouldn't confidence build up on your experiences? If you get constantly blown off, how can you be confident?

Lets say you do 50 approachs and first 10 did not work, how could further approaches be made with confidence at all?

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Because the confidence is within you, not necessarily with experiences. The frame of mind you should have when those first 10 reject you should be, "Well, it's their loss, not mine." Or something like, "They just lost out big-time."

Confidence starts in the mindset, and then builds up with approaching.

 

[Babnik]

Because the confidence is within you, not necessarily with experiences. The frame of mind you should have when those first 10 reject you should be, "Well, it's their loss, not mine." Or something like, "They just lost out big-time."

Confidence starts in the mindset, and then builds up with approaching.

But thinking like that is just an excuse for your own POSSIBLE failure. I mean, its like saying "Oh, I got a D because I had a crappy professor!" while it was your performance that got you a D!

 

[Docs]

Confidence is knowing you have the slightest chances for success, the greatest of failures, yet you still perform with the strength of determination without holding back.

 

[blinkwatt]

Confidence is knowing you have the slightest chances for success, the greatest of failures, yet you still perform with the strength of determination without holding back.

Bingo! Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Babnik]

Confidence is knowing you have the slightest chances for success, the greatest of failures, yet you still perform with the strength of determination without holding back.

And thats what women like? A guy who has SLIGHT chance of success and GREAT chance of failure?

 

[blinkwatt]

And thats what women like? A guy who has SLIGHT chance of success and GREAT chance of failure?

No thats not what he is saying. Even with the odds against you,you have faith in yourself to beats the odds.

 

[Docs]

And thats what women like? A guy who has SLIGHT chance of success and GREAT chance of failure?

No, it's about still trying even when you're facing the girl that makes you tremble, or the problem that makes you want to avoid it all together.

 

[Babnik]

Confidence is doing what you feel regardless of the consequences...

Now, of course, I DO NOT mean stealing, raping, looting, or any other illegal activity in which yourself or others are harmed or degraded.

Confidence is approaching the hottest girl at the party, despite the possiblity of being rejected or shaking as you talk to her.

To rephrase an oft-quoted cliche: Confidence is not the absence of fear; it's acting in spite of the fear.

Confidence is saying what no else says, though it needs to be said.

Confidence is doing what no one else does, though it needs to be done.

Confidence is marked by self-content thoughts and actions, and a confident man doesn't much care if people love or hate him. Yet, he is liked by many.

You guys talk about COURAGE and PERSISTANCE.

Go to dictionary.com and type in CONFIDENCE. Its about being SURE or TRUST into something.

If you are NOT sure - you are NOT confident.

 

[blinkwatt]

Go to dictionary.com and type in CONFIDENCE. Its about being SURE or TRUST into something.

That sounds more like faith to me is the word they are looking for,to each their own.

 

[Babnik]

So now it seems a lot of people really do not know what confidence is...maybe thats the problem.

 

[bauer_23]

It's the difference between thinking you can and knowing you can.

 

[Babnik]

It's the difference between thinking you can and knowing you can.

OK, let me get it straight. You approach a girl and you should FEEL that "I can **** her" , right?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Is it that:

You WILL get her?
You CAN get her?

Confidence has absolutely nothing to do with her and everything to do with you.

 

[ChrizZ]

It is really weird. The more I get rejected, the more confident I get because I know that I can face my fear anytime, anywhere...

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

It is really weird. The more I get rejected, the more confident I get because I know that I can face my fear anytime, anywhere...

Actually, when I get rejected now, when I end up getting home, I laugh about it. It's kind of funny these days, when I do get rejected.

Because I haven't lost a thing, and they have lost a great opportunity.

 

[Bvbidd]

You just keep telling yourself that.

If they reject ya, they got a reason. You failed. Don't tell yourself anything else or your using the most mentally unhealthy defence mech there is, denial. :yes: There is more to girls then conquering your fear of em, lol.

Sorry, you needed that to come back down to the real world.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

You just keep telling yourself that.

If they reject ya, they got a reason. You failed. Don't tell yourself anything else or your using the most mentally unhealthy defence mech there is, denial. :yes: There is more to girls then conquering your fear of em, lol.

Sorry, you needed that to come back down to the real world.

I'm in the real world--and I don't need you to tell me what I need. I'm happy, and I know what I want. And yeah, they may have a reason to reject ya, but more often than not, it's not a good one. So, before you start ridiculing someone and claiming that they are not in the real world, back up a bit.

 

[Babnik]

You just keep telling yourself that.

If they reject ya, they got a reason. You failed. Don't tell yourself anything else or your using the most mentally unhealthy defence mech there is, denial. :yes: There is more to girls then conquering your fear of em, lol.

Sorry, you needed that to come back down to the real world.

And who said the girls you approach are WORTH a guy who has the game and all that? Most girls I talk to open their mouth and CRAP comes out of it...
Nobody is perfect anyway.

 

[Nighthawk]

Confidence is inversely proportionate to doubt. Arrogance is the absence of doubt, yet doubt is useful in moderation. So confidence is best achieved by entertaining doubt but not making it your master.