"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What does it mean when a chick friend asks you
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spidersense
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Two, is a girl asked me that one time about another girl that wasn't very pretty physically, but damn... she was sexy. I said no, but she was attractive, and she said that she walkes around school all the time acting like every guy wants her. In that case she may have been experiencing the same thing I experienced in the first situation.
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actually that was going to be my third thing, the other girl likes you and is possibly having this girl ask you if you like her, or not having her ask you but the other girl takes it into her own hands. That has actually happend to me in the past... but it's been a very very long time... Most more mature women wouldn't go through this, I think.Originally posted by sapphire
It means that the other chick digs you.
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She is (Women are) threatened by other women that she (they) sees as above her on the beauty scale - because she (they) knows that the "beauty" of the woman is the main determinant (attraction) for which the male is motivated to pursue his prey!!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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ok, something else just popped to mind right now. when girls asked me that in the past, I thought, maybe she likes me and wanted to know what I think about her. Like, where are my standards are at, which is right in line with what PuertoRican_Lover said.
1) I just look around saying "what other chick? Which one?" over and over again until the girl dissappeares from sight so you never have to answer.
2) I say, "Well, yes and no. Would society find her pretty? [take a pause as if considering it], yeah. I guess some might. Is she pretty enough to get with me? No."
Alexi
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.