"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What does it mean when a chick friend asks you
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Two, is a girl asked me that one time about another girl that wasn't very pretty physically, but damn... she was sexy. I said no, but she was attractive, and she said that she walkes around school all the time acting like every guy wants her. In that case she may have been experiencing the same thing I experienced in the first situation.
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actually that was going to be my third thing, the other girl likes you and is possibly having this girl ask you if you like her, or not having her ask you but the other girl takes it into her own hands. That has actually happend to me in the past... but it's been a very very long time... Most more mature women wouldn't go through this, I think.Originally posted by sapphire
It means that the other chick digs you.
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She is (Women are) threatened by other women that she (they) sees as above her on the beauty scale - because she (they) knows that the "beauty" of the woman is the main determinant (attraction) for which the male is motivated to pursue his prey!!!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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ok, something else just popped to mind right now. when girls asked me that in the past, I thought, maybe she likes me and wanted to know what I think about her. Like, where are my standards are at, which is right in line with what PuertoRican_Lover said.
1) I just look around saying "what other chick? Which one?" over and over again until the girl dissappeares from sight so you never have to answer.
2) I say, "Well, yes and no. Would society find her pretty? [take a pause as if considering it], yeah. I guess some might. Is she pretty enough to get with me? No."
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.