"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What does it mean when a chick friend asks you
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Two, is a girl asked me that one time about another girl that wasn't very pretty physically, but damn... she was sexy. I said no, but she was attractive, and she said that she walkes around school all the time acting like every guy wants her. In that case she may have been experiencing the same thing I experienced in the first situation.
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actually that was going to be my third thing, the other girl likes you and is possibly having this girl ask you if you like her, or not having her ask you but the other girl takes it into her own hands. That has actually happend to me in the past... but it's been a very very long time... Most more mature women wouldn't go through this, I think.Originally posted by sapphire
It means that the other chick digs you.
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She is (Women are) threatened by other women that she (they) sees as above her on the beauty scale - because she (they) knows that the "beauty" of the woman is the main determinant (attraction) for which the male is motivated to pursue his prey!!!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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ok, something else just popped to mind right now. when girls asked me that in the past, I thought, maybe she likes me and wanted to know what I think about her. Like, where are my standards are at, which is right in line with what PuertoRican_Lover said.
1) I just look around saying "what other chick? Which one?" over and over again until the girl dissappeares from sight so you never have to answer.
2) I say, "Well, yes and no. Would society find her pretty? [take a pause as if considering it], yeah. I guess some might. Is she pretty enough to get with me? No."
Alexi
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.