lamobatsman
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I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
means you have the green light to F her but you are talking too much and being too nice and moving too slowlamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ahhh... But thats what she SAYS - doesnt necessarily mean its what she wants, or responds to. People generally go after what is familiar, as well.Mike32ct said:= "The good looking guys I've known and/or F-ed in the past were self-centered selfish douchbag p r icks. You're good looking AND want to get to know me rather than F and dump me. It's new and refreshing."
lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You mean when women talk to you... you actually find yourself..... listening????lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Before you've banged her? It's white noise.lamobatsman said:what does a girl mean when she says this....
Ha ha ha... This actually happened before. People generally view you as you're perceived. And a lot of girls arent interested if you arent exciting and sexual off the bat. Once their minds are made up about you - you are treated and categorized accordingly. For decent guys, this is no good. "Yeah, you're so awesome, attentive, interested, and pleasant on the eyes, but you dont turn me on"... That sort of thing. And it doesnt always come right away... LJBF, that is.Trump said:I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."
I'd rather she tell your friend you are no nonsense type of guy who won't mess around and gets things done.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.