lamobatsman
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I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
means you have the green light to F her but you are talking too much and being too nice and moving too slowlamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ahhh... But thats what she SAYS - doesnt necessarily mean its what she wants, or responds to. People generally go after what is familiar, as well.Mike32ct said:= "The good looking guys I've known and/or F-ed in the past were self-centered selfish douchbag p r icks. You're good looking AND want to get to know me rather than F and dump me. It's new and refreshing."
lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You mean when women talk to you... you actually find yourself..... listening????lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Before you've banged her? It's white noise.lamobatsman said:what does a girl mean when she says this....
Ha ha ha... This actually happened before. People generally view you as you're perceived. And a lot of girls arent interested if you arent exciting and sexual off the bat. Once their minds are made up about you - you are treated and categorized accordingly. For decent guys, this is no good. "Yeah, you're so awesome, attentive, interested, and pleasant on the eyes, but you dont turn me on"... That sort of thing. And it doesnt always come right away... LJBF, that is.Trump said:I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."
I'd rather she tell your friend you are no nonsense type of guy who won't mess around and gets things done.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.