lamobatsman
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I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
means you have the green light to F her but you are talking too much and being too nice and moving too slowlamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ahhh... But thats what she SAYS - doesnt necessarily mean its what she wants, or responds to. People generally go after what is familiar, as well.Mike32ct said:= "The good looking guys I've known and/or F-ed in the past were self-centered selfish douchbag p r icks. You're good looking AND want to get to know me rather than F and dump me. It's new and refreshing."
lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You mean when women talk to you... you actually find yourself..... listening????lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Before you've banged her? It's white noise.lamobatsman said:what does a girl mean when she says this....
Ha ha ha... This actually happened before. People generally view you as you're perceived. And a lot of girls arent interested if you arent exciting and sexual off the bat. Once their minds are made up about you - you are treated and categorized accordingly. For decent guys, this is no good. "Yeah, you're so awesome, attentive, interested, and pleasant on the eyes, but you dont turn me on"... That sort of thing. And it doesnt always come right away... LJBF, that is.Trump said:I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."
I'd rather she tell your friend you are no nonsense type of guy who won't mess around and gets things done.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.