lamobatsman
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I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
means you have the green light to F her but you are talking too much and being too nice and moving too slowlamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ahhh... But thats what she SAYS - doesnt necessarily mean its what she wants, or responds to. People generally go after what is familiar, as well.Mike32ct said:= "The good looking guys I've known and/or F-ed in the past were self-centered selfish douchbag p r icks. You're good looking AND want to get to know me rather than F and dump me. It's new and refreshing."
lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You mean when women talk to you... you actually find yourself..... listening????lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."lamobatsman said:I like that you are good looking, nice and different to all the other guys i have met. And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Before you've banged her? It's white noise.lamobatsman said:what does a girl mean when she says this....
Ha ha ha... This actually happened before. People generally view you as you're perceived. And a lot of girls arent interested if you arent exciting and sexual off the bat. Once their minds are made up about you - you are treated and categorized accordingly. For decent guys, this is no good. "Yeah, you're so awesome, attentive, interested, and pleasant on the eyes, but you dont turn me on"... That sort of thing. And it doesnt always come right away... LJBF, that is.Trump said:I don't like it, she's protecting herself. If you want to have sex with her down the road she can say "whoa whoa, you are not supposed to want sex from me for 6 months. I told you you were nice and different from the rest, you can't act like a jerk now and want sex from me now."
I'd rather she tell your friend you are no nonsense type of guy who won't mess around and gets things done.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
And i like that you want to get to know me and are interested in me
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.