"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SW15

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Approaching a group of 4.

His opener was weak as well. Ideally, in day game, you want to approach women who are solo. I could argue that approaching 2 women together is possible, but I wouldn't recommend it.
 

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1) Hovering indecisively and thereby looking like a creep.
2) I want to meet "one" of you. No specificity. "I'll take any bone you throw me".
3) Set of 4, odds are low. Their resistance will be high in a group of 4.
 

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-Validated them immediately by calling them beautiful (devalued himself)
-came on too strong for the environment(it’s a mall not a night club)
-as Atom said above, be decisive and pick one.
-Even better, entertain them all and have them compete for him.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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He was indecisive, probably said something beta or creepy I can tell even tho I don't understand Portuguese.. Also, never approach a group of young girls because most of them are shallow and even tho some would like you, they will try to humiliate you in front of their friends to come of as cool and to build up their fragile egos. Only approach a group of milfs in the bar/mall because chances are they all will be dtf and horny as fvck I guarantee you that.
 

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Can’t the tell the guy’s age, but by the sound of his voice, maybe he was too old to approach that group?
That could be the case. Those girls look like they are probably 16 to 18 yrs old.
 

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The better question would have been "What did he do right?" And the answer would have been nothing.
He apporached in person, which takes guts. This happened in 2011, and there was more in person approaching going in 2011 as compared to 2018-2019. In-person approaching became more of a fading art as the 2010s progressed. Lots of guys are swipe monkeys now. In 2011, it is good this guy was approaching in person rather than spam emailing on OkCupid, PlentyofFish, or Badoo (which I think was big in some intl markets back then). Tinder didn't launch until 2012.

Only approach a group of milfs in the bar/mall because chances are they all will be dtf and horny as fvck I guarantee you that.
Yes, you would have better odds approaching a group of 35-44 year old women as compared to a group of 18-23 year old women. I still don't recommend groups of 3+ for a guy doing his thing solo of any age group.
 

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This reminds me of a guy that went up to a woman and said he was doing a survey on beautiful women. Then he asked if she'd seen any around.

Mainly, he got it wrong by saying "I'd like to know one of you" and holding up one finger. They probably thought he was insulting them by saying that only one of them was attractive. Plus, how was he expecting them to respond to that? Was he expecting one of them to step forward and offer herself up to him in front of her friends? The only place you can say stuff like that and for it to work is at a brothel or a nightclub full of hookers.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One of the worst openers/introductions I've ever seen.

I want to meet one of you? Terrible. Did he expect the girls to ask him "Oh, which one of us?"

I have opened many times in groups as large as 10 and I always went in with a specific girl I was interested in.
 

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The better question would have been "What did he do right?" And the answer would have been nothing.
lol. The only thing he did do right was at least opening up but other than that, he tanked.
 

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One of the worst openers/introductions I've ever seen.

I want to meet one of you? Terrible. Did he expect the girls to ask him "Oh, which one of us?"

I have opened many times in groups as large as 10 and I always went in with a specific girl I was interested in.
But I had thought it was canonical game to make chicks compete for you; by saying he was only interested in meeting one, wasn't he making them compete?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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But I had thought it was canonical game to make chicks compete for you; by saying he was only interested in meeting one, wasn't he making them compete?
Why would they compete for some random guy that just walked up? He didn't even get past hello.
 

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Lol, they did not look interested at all.
You could feel him slinking away with his tail between his legs by the camera.
 

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The only other comment I would add is calling a group of young women “beautiful” at the opening screams “old guy.” Young guys don’t open with something like that.
As an old guy, I resent that. What do young guys open with, " 'Sup. "?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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