"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what do you think of this opener...

cola

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She is standing adjacent to you. You see her. You walk up to her, look her dead in her eyes and say
"You know what I want" while handing her your phone

Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FairShake

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I think that line plus handing her the phone is pretty good. Very confident and direct. Make sure you do it with a bit of a smirk on your face. It's good to offset such a bold move with a little humor and playfulness. But open her first and converse a little. Unless you are great looking your approach will not work on it's own.
 

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That's pretty good, but the one that I use and have had success with is you walk up to her, hold out your phone and then go "Put your number in here before I don't want it anymore."
 

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I don't see the point.. Nothing will come from those numbers.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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VladPatton

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I can't help but think the majority of girls will just look at you with a big FU expression on their face while you stand there with your cell in your hand. But hey you can try and see how it goes.
 

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I think it's probably better to build some comfort at first...this way you have a better shot at the number.
 

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It's best to approach men with this at first and gradually build up to the ladies.
 

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Is your phone worth any money?
Personally I think some women may reply, "Did you want me to do this?" and then hurl your mobile across the dancefloor/street.

But maybe I'm just being a tad negative about this.
Give it a go and let us know how many numbers you get/how strong the gorilla glass is on a new iphone ;)
 

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cola said:
... "You know what I want" ...
=I want to get into your pants.


If she is OK with her, then she will gladly feed her number, if she is not, have some money in spare to buy a new phone :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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