You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Haha. I agree with Francisco d'Anconia. Just wait 'till all the "entitled" people wake up from their partying, and start bashing him and turn it into the typical David Deangelo thread, which, hell695, you could have searched for, btw.Francisco d'Anconia said:Heaven forbid that he tries to make money off of putting together a bunch of information into a concise format that's easily digested. People should do work for others without any expectation of getting paid.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DonJoseCantosie said:I think some of his stuff for inner game is good, its just that he doesn't go into the Comfort Stage much...which is the biggest flaw of his material. Other methods that talk about that stage imo are better. ****y and Funny can only get u so far. Still got to have a vibing conversation.
What the hell does Gunwitch say about a "comfort" stage?DonJoseCantosie said:Badboy's Ebook
Mystery Method(Altho im not fond of his style)
Juggler's How to be a pickup artist
Gunwitch's Dynamic Sex Life
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't know; but I guess that's one way of looking at it.DJVladdy said:Gunwitch aleady assumes comfort by default, so theres no stage
This is true.DonJoseCantosie said:****y and Funny can only get u so far. Still got to have a vibing conversation.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.