Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Haha. I agree with Francisco d'Anconia. Just wait 'till all the "entitled" people wake up from their partying, and start bashing him and turn it into the typical David Deangelo thread, which, hell695, you could have searched for, btw.Francisco d'Anconia said:Heaven forbid that he tries to make money off of putting together a bunch of information into a concise format that's easily digested. People should do work for others without any expectation of getting paid.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonJoseCantosie said:I think some of his stuff for inner game is good, its just that he doesn't go into the Comfort Stage much...which is the biggest flaw of his material. Other methods that talk about that stage imo are better. ****y and Funny can only get u so far. Still got to have a vibing conversation.
What the hell does Gunwitch say about a "comfort" stage?DonJoseCantosie said:Badboy's Ebook
Mystery Method(Altho im not fond of his style)
Juggler's How to be a pickup artist
Gunwitch's Dynamic Sex Life
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't know; but I guess that's one way of looking at it.DJVladdy said:Gunwitch aleady assumes comfort by default, so theres no stage
This is true.DonJoseCantosie said:****y and Funny can only get u so far. Still got to have a vibing conversation.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.