Eighth Passenger
Don Juan
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What are some good excuses?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why do you want to end convos early? I mean sure its good if your a newbie to seduction but some of the best rapport is spend on the phone prior to the meet. Just dont ask questions about her work or school.Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
What are some good excuses?
It's a legitimate question.Originally posted by Sirducer
Why do you want to end convos early? I mean sure its good if your a newbie to seduction but some of the best rapport is spend on the phone prior to the meet. Just dont ask questions about her work or school.
If you need to then say you gotta go, no fancy bulslhit here.![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Instead of asking what to say when ending convos, work out how to best establish attraction and rapport on the phone, make HER want to meet you. The problem with this forum is that too many fu.cking guys worry about what to say in different situs and TOTALLY neglect their INNER game which is the most important part of becoming a PUA or DJ (whatever turns you on).Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
It's a legitimate question.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly...Originally posted by AFK Protector
"Hey listen. I gotta cut this short. I'll see you tomorrow"
"Hey I really gotta get going now."
be vague. don't supplicate. don't apologize. you got another life besides talkin to her.