When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'd advise changing your game. Third-party observers, especially women, tend to be particularly good at seeing through whatever veil you're wearing. In the rare case that their claim is unjustifiable, then it's probably a good idea to not let the bastards get you down. Focus on the girl. Demonstrate with your undivided attention that the world doesn't matter when you're with her. On the other hand, if you can't do that because you are not genuinely interested, you'll just come off as a fake.donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well said.( . )( . ) said:Try to make those beta/ug/society shame tactics slide right off your back mate.
If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.donjuan87 said:To Demon: I wasn't running any game on her. I was just talking to be friendly, and also it was a guy who made the comment.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's not about that, it's about reputation. I go to a pretty small university, and you have to worry about your reputation. I know guys who follow the philosophy "the guy who gets rejected the most leaves with the most numbers" (i.e. hitting on a girl without getting any IOIs first) and they have bad reputations, especially among girls.Demon said:If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.
Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
squirrels said:Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Get the **** out of here.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
see bro, that's the kind of stuff that makes people not want to respond to your post. Guys are taking time out to help you out, even if you don't agree w/ it appreciate it.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.