She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'd advise changing your game. Third-party observers, especially women, tend to be particularly good at seeing through whatever veil you're wearing. In the rare case that their claim is unjustifiable, then it's probably a good idea to not let the bastards get you down. Focus on the girl. Demonstrate with your undivided attention that the world doesn't matter when you're with her. On the other hand, if you can't do that because you are not genuinely interested, you'll just come off as a fake.donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well said.( . )( . ) said:Try to make those beta/ug/society shame tactics slide right off your back mate.
If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.donjuan87 said:To Demon: I wasn't running any game on her. I was just talking to be friendly, and also it was a guy who made the comment.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's not about that, it's about reputation. I go to a pretty small university, and you have to worry about your reputation. I know guys who follow the philosophy "the guy who gets rejected the most leaves with the most numbers" (i.e. hitting on a girl without getting any IOIs first) and they have bad reputations, especially among girls.Demon said:If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.
Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
squirrels said:Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Get the **** out of here.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
see bro, that's the kind of stuff that makes people not want to respond to your post. Guys are taking time out to help you out, even if you don't agree w/ it appreciate it.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.