You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'd advise changing your game. Third-party observers, especially women, tend to be particularly good at seeing through whatever veil you're wearing. In the rare case that their claim is unjustifiable, then it's probably a good idea to not let the bastards get you down. Focus on the girl. Demonstrate with your undivided attention that the world doesn't matter when you're with her. On the other hand, if you can't do that because you are not genuinely interested, you'll just come off as a fake.donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Well said.( . )( . ) said:Try to make those beta/ug/society shame tactics slide right off your back mate.
If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.donjuan87 said:To Demon: I wasn't running any game on her. I was just talking to be friendly, and also it was a guy who made the comment.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's not about that, it's about reputation. I go to a pretty small university, and you have to worry about your reputation. I know guys who follow the philosophy "the guy who gets rejected the most leaves with the most numbers" (i.e. hitting on a girl without getting any IOIs first) and they have bad reputations, especially among girls.Demon said:If you weren't interested in her, you wouldn't be concerned about some guy's off-the-wall comment.
Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"donjuan87 said:What do you do when you are at talking to a girl and someone says "he just wants a piece of ass"?
squirrels said:Say, "No I don't want a piece, I want the WHOLE THING!"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Get the **** out of here.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
see bro, that's the kind of stuff that makes people not want to respond to your post. Guys are taking time out to help you out, even if you don't agree w/ it appreciate it.donjuan87 said:Does anyone have some real advice?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.