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What do you all usually do for the second date?

nicksaiz65

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Coffee has been a great first date for me. Honestly, it’s usually my go-to date.

Since we know that women will usually put out on the second or third date, what do you all usually do for the second date? So that you can escalate things a bit? Dates that could be applied in college would be excellent too.
 

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Assuming she agreed to a second date because she´s already into you, in my experience it doesn´t matter, do wahtever you feel like doing.
 

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Bro in college all my dates were “come to my room and let’s watch a movie and get high/drink”

I’m assuming you live in halls (see campus), just ask to go over.

Ask the girls doing any sports therapy course for a massage.

In fact ask any girl for a massage or offer a massage. You shouldn’t be going anywhere on dates except drinking and to each other’s rooms. If they say no, “cool” and move on.

Sh1t I’m 29 and that’s also what I do now
 

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Bro in college all my dates were “come to my room and let’s watch a movie and get high/drink”

I’m assuming you live in halls (see campus), just ask to go over.

Ask the girls doing any sports therapy course for a massage.

In fact ask any girl for a massage or offer a massage. You shouldn’t be going anywhere on dates except drinking and to each other’s rooms. If they say no, “cool” and move on.

Sh1t I’m 29 and that’s also what I do now
I totally agree Murk. Honestly, every time I do that I’ve gotten laid
 

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Depends, last year I had a first date with a girl that lasted for almost 5 hours, so obviously it went really well. Our second date was two days later which involved going to Wal Mart to get snacks and then coming over to my place to watch a movie.

Mini golf, bowling, going for a walk/hike, just hanging out...so many options. You really don't need to do anything fancy nor expensive, just have fun.
 

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You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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