She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I've never been to India but i've dated Indian and bangladeshi girls. They're smart, man. They're a ****ing sharp group of people. And you're right, they are very prettyGamePlan said:I think Indian women are pretty, but what's life like in India? I know they have some big (huge!) cities, but would it be fun to live in such a place if you're the kind of person who's into modern cities, etc. or is India still very "rural"?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
America lol. Well every asian country will have their women like this, it is a matter of being able to find them.GamePlan said:So in what country would I find asian women like this beauty:
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My experience in PI is that it's always partly gonna be money but a lot of it is status. A white guy is widely considered a high status boyfriend and the girls will treat you accordingly.GamePlan said:Actually, I'm not into having a ton of sex with a lot of different women (believe it or not), I'm more of a LTR kind of guy...and I wouldnt want girls to be attracted to me because Im white and considered wealthy becuase of being white or something.
Ya see above. They like the bigger noses, bright colored eyes, pale skin and so on. Look at the ads their media throws at them - even the pinoy models and actors tend (strongly) to look distinctly Caucasian.GamePlan said:But apparently thats not the only reason why many asian women are into us white guys.
Just to be clear, AFAIK Spain is not part of Latin America but rather Southern Europe.GamePlan said:What you said about the phillipines is very interesting, though, because I seriously know a guy who's half flip and half-white and he looks like a latino!
Wow this is not only racist but sort of sexist. These girls are fully functional human adults last time I looked.Michele said:... what's making me mad is white guys preying on Filipinas.
Again in my experience filipinas EXPECT a fast track to the LTR and a lot of guys don't explicitly shut them down in the first 5 minutes, but that's not really 'manipulation'.Michele said:... it's not technically that, it's that you guys have your own "race", but prefer going the easy route and manipulating girls who think you want to marry them.
I just flat out don't understand your point here, sorry.Michele said:No offense, but maybe you'd all understand what I mean if white-American women weren't stereotyped in a bad way. Asian women, for the most part, aren't AS "westernized", let alone "Americanized". For the most part, white women are superficial and date white guys only.
I'm not bitter, I could get women of any race if I chose to... but I still have my opinion on it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GamePlan said:Just curious, because going to a place in Asia where English is spoken would be great ....
You have to remember that Vietnam is still a third-world country that opened up basically in 1986, but really started changing only about 2000. So now there are lots of modern, upscale places to live, eat, and go out - but it's not really a modern country, not yet. It has modern sections, at least in Saigon and Hanoi, but they are pretty small. Of course if you have enough money you may never notice.GamePlan said:What's Vietnam like as a country, though? Are there any modern cities such as in Japan and Korea, etc.?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.