I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've never been to India but i've dated Indian and bangladeshi girls. They're smart, man. They're a ****ing sharp group of people. And you're right, they are very prettyGamePlan said:I think Indian women are pretty, but what's life like in India? I know they have some big (huge!) cities, but would it be fun to live in such a place if you're the kind of person who's into modern cities, etc. or is India still very "rural"?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
America lol. Well every asian country will have their women like this, it is a matter of being able to find them.GamePlan said:So in what country would I find asian women like this beauty:
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My experience in PI is that it's always partly gonna be money but a lot of it is status. A white guy is widely considered a high status boyfriend and the girls will treat you accordingly.GamePlan said:Actually, I'm not into having a ton of sex with a lot of different women (believe it or not), I'm more of a LTR kind of guy...and I wouldnt want girls to be attracted to me because Im white and considered wealthy becuase of being white or something.
Ya see above. They like the bigger noses, bright colored eyes, pale skin and so on. Look at the ads their media throws at them - even the pinoy models and actors tend (strongly) to look distinctly Caucasian.GamePlan said:But apparently thats not the only reason why many asian women are into us white guys.
Just to be clear, AFAIK Spain is not part of Latin America but rather Southern Europe.GamePlan said:What you said about the phillipines is very interesting, though, because I seriously know a guy who's half flip and half-white and he looks like a latino!
Wow this is not only racist but sort of sexist. These girls are fully functional human adults last time I looked.Michele said:... what's making me mad is white guys preying on Filipinas.
Again in my experience filipinas EXPECT a fast track to the LTR and a lot of guys don't explicitly shut them down in the first 5 minutes, but that's not really 'manipulation'.Michele said:... it's not technically that, it's that you guys have your own "race", but prefer going the easy route and manipulating girls who think you want to marry them.
I just flat out don't understand your point here, sorry.Michele said:No offense, but maybe you'd all understand what I mean if white-American women weren't stereotyped in a bad way. Asian women, for the most part, aren't AS "westernized", let alone "Americanized". For the most part, white women are superficial and date white guys only.
I'm not bitter, I could get women of any race if I chose to... but I still have my opinion on it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
GamePlan said:Just curious, because going to a place in Asia where English is spoken would be great ....
You have to remember that Vietnam is still a third-world country that opened up basically in 1986, but really started changing only about 2000. So now there are lots of modern, upscale places to live, eat, and go out - but it's not really a modern country, not yet. It has modern sections, at least in Saigon and Hanoi, but they are pretty small. Of course if you have enough money you may never notice.GamePlan said:What's Vietnam like as a country, though? Are there any modern cities such as in Japan and Korea, etc.?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.