Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's bad for them, maybe. For some though, it's probably a good thing. Better to be single than having to deal with a crazy biatch.And do you even consider this to be a bad thing?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree complaining about it won't do much, but instead of trying to domesticate a buffalo and telling men they are all bad/boring we should start telling men to filter out these toxic women from the get to.Another day another thread about how jaded the dating market is against men!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Higher barrier of entry means higher competition. This girl could be flaking on you on some NFL player not some average joe on the street that you think you are competing against. Girls are now dating dudes 3 notches above them, so that 5 you are trying to game could be talking to an 8 or 9. However, these dudes will never submit to a 5, so they are essentially just wasting everyone's time lol.Social media and the internet, gave women way more options then they should of had. As a result their egos have sky-rocketed higher then mt Everest.
The barrier of entry for the average man just keeps getting higher and higher.