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Master Don Juan
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Basically.... Every one is different crap...but...
Patterns arise I'm sure.
Patterns arise I'm sure.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls who submit are great. Until they leave you and you know what they are up to. But at least you were first.Submission.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Who cares if they leave?Girls who submit are great. Until they leave you and you know what they are up to. But at least you were first.
I'd prefer to have a short term relationship on my terms.Who cares if they leave?
However, any time a woman who "leaves" is not on the same page as you. Would you rather have a short relationship on YOUR terms or a long relationship on a woman's terms?
It shouldn't matter if she is a 10 or not.I'd prefer to have a short term relationship on my terms.
That said, when a girl I think is a 10 leaves me (something that has happened to me about 5-10 times in my life), I care. Always. If I didn't, I wouldn't have been inspired to improve to begin with.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ok, well when a 10 goes from being on the same page to not being on the same page, I care. And I never call her names.It shouldn't matter if she is a 10 or not.
If a woman isn't on the same page as you.. there is no reason you should want to be with her. I only want to be with a 10 if she will be a good addition to my life. If she is going to be a c*nt she can get lost.
How is that working out for you so far?Ok, well when a 10 goes from being on the same page to not being on the same page, I care. And I never call her names.
I had sex with one this month, and two slightly lesser females, 5 in the past 2 months, so not bad.How is that working out for you so far?
Assuming time is money:Are they working to keep you happy or are you working to keep them happy?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I was referring to "caring" when a 10 leaves you because you are not on the same page.I had sex with one this month, and two slightly lesser females, 5 in the past 2 months, so not bad.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.