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Basically.... Every one is different crap...but...
Patterns arise I'm sure.
Patterns arise I'm sure.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What are some things that show a females attraction and commitment level?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mrgoodstuff
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Break down in your car like an hour out and let her come get you.
Girls who submit are great. Until they leave you and you know what they are up to. But at least you were first.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Who cares if they leave?
A woman who "leaves" is not on the same page as you. Would you rather have a short relationship on YOUR terms or a long relationship on a woman's terms?
Who Dares Win
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Trust your gut, if something doesnt work your gut is the first one to notice and communicate it to you via discomfort, stress and a light sense of frustration that grows the longer you ignore it.
I'd prefer to have a short term relationship on my terms.
That said, when a girl I think is a 10 leaves me (something that has happened to me about 5-10 times in my life), I care. Always. If I didn't, I wouldn't have been inspired to improve to begin with.
logicallefty
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If she reaches out to you before you do her on a given day, she is attracted.
If you reach your lowest point in life and she stays, she is committed.
If you reach your lowest point in life and she stays, she is committed.
It shouldn't matter if she is a 10 or not.
If a woman isn't on the same page as you.. there is no reason you should want to be with her. I only want to be with a 10 if she will be a good addition to my life. If she is going to be a c*nt she can get lost.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ok, well when a 10 goes from being on the same page to not being on the same page, I care. And I never call her names.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Are they working to keep you happy or are you working to keep them happy?
How is that working out for you so far?
I had sex with one this month, and two slightly lesser females, 5 in the past 2 months, so not bad.
Assuming time is money:
If I'm talking about how great a woman is, she is providing me a good value. If I were "paying for it" that would imply it were "for sale". How much does a night of mad, passionate sex with your dream girl cost?
Answer: a little more than a girl who looks at her watch for an hour and then goes to the next stop on the train. But people hard on cash will imply that paying for dinner implies paying a street walker.
The answer to the question "Did he pay for it?" is always yes. It's about how much. A penny is a good deal. A million not so much. Somewhere in between lies the optimal value (called the price point). I think it's a function of earnings. How much do you think Donald Trump spent on his first date with Melania? Think they went to the corner bar for a Bud Light on her? So it's not about "did you spend any money?" it's about "did she provide a good value?"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I was referring to "caring" when a 10 leaves you because you are not on the same page.
The point I'm making is that wanting to be with a sh!tty person just because they are a 10 makes a man seem desperate.
daddymonsterpoodle
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This whole hb10 stuff is a bit tedious. Go for women you are attracted to sure but if you don't like their personality what is the point? I am not an hb10 either. Find women that make you happy. Everyone else can go f-ck themselves. If you like fat, tattooed, bald girls with a moustache and a lederhosen fetish that is your own business.
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A girl that is into you is going to make it easy on your because she wants you to feel that it is easy to be with her. She will be available, she will be happy, she will be kinoing you. I guess the commitment level can be gauged by having this occur on an ongoing manner. You can also tell by her actions where she is at with you. And listen to her words. If her words match her deeds, or the deeds exceed what she is saying, there is high interest there.
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Assuming OP wanted an answer that showed "attraction AND commitment" (as in all in one) I would say "attachment".
If she frequently wants to be with you (around you) then that is attraction and commitment.
If she frequently wants to be with you (around you) then that is attraction and commitment.
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She asks how she can help you, then she helps; she sticks with you when things are tough; she doesn't complain, she is giving of physical attention; she stops what she is doing or talking about when you need to do something or talk about something; she creates for you a respite and comfortable environment in which to recharge; she gives you peace & space to decompress; she cares for you demonstrably and consistently. In doing the above things she loves you.
Love is an action verb. When you love someone you do loving things. Observe what she is doing. Her actions are what show you attraction & commitment.
Love is an action verb. When you love someone you do loving things. Observe what she is doing. Her actions are what show you attraction & commitment.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.