Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is impossible -- if she has feelings for you then she will not be your free prostitute!!J.kelly said:Hey DJ's need advice...
This girl I've been talking to has feelings for me, .................... How do I keep her as a f-buddy?
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
KontrollerX said:Well I'll give you a list of options...
Option 1- Scumbag choice
Just pretend to be her boyfriend and take what you want from her until you find a suitable girlfriend to replace her.
Option 2- Honorable man choice
Explain to her you are not looking for a serious relationship right now just a bit of fun and want to keep seeing her because you enjoy her company. If she agrees but cuts off the sex or its frequency you then make your exit.
Option 3- DJ choice
Do whatever it is you can live with to achieve your desired outcome.